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A really good beta is like a really good therapist; both have the gift, not of giving you the right answers, but of asking the right questions, the ones that force you to come up with the right answers. They take in the story that you're telling them, reflect on it, and then say, "OK, this part here, this doesn't hang together with what you were telling me earlier, what's the discrepancy about? This part feels true, this convinces me; but this other part over here feels like you're skimming the surface, you're just giving me the pat answer--is there more going on there than I'm seeing? Now this bit here, I can tell something's going on, but I'm not sure what it is, can you help me understand what it all really means? This character keeps showing up, but he feels flat; why is he important, what does he mean to your story?"
The therapist is the beta reader for our life stories, always pushing us to go deeper, strip away the equivocation and cliches and easy lies, connect the dots, see the big picture, dig down to the bedrock truths, make coherent meaning out of the random collection of scenes and emotions and actions and personae we carry around in our heads. Not by telling us what to do, but by asking us to think through and say more about what it all means. Life happens; we make meaning out of what happens by turning it into a story, our life story; and when our life story stops making sense, no longer works, we bring in a good beta.
I've been lucky enough to have a couple of good therapists in my time, and I'm even luckier to have several really good betas (because writing is even harder than living). You folks know who you are ‹g›, and I send huge love and gratitude out to all of you.
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Well, let me take this opportunity to thank YOU for all the wonderful coments and help you gave me on my stories. You taught me a lot and sometimes I wish I was still writing so that I could get your fabulous e-mails.
Posted by Nancy Ewart @ 06/08/2002 08:20 PM CST
Ooh, I like this analogy.
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